Wednesday, February 8, 2017

Workin it Wednesday {2.8.17}

Happy Hump Day!

Today I thought it would be fun to link up with Shay and Erika for their Workin' it Wednesday series.

Today's topic is: How do we work on our marriage?

I've been married for 8 1/2 years and while I'm no expert on the topic, this is what works for us. That being said, marriage is hard work! Here's what helps us keep our marriage strong.

Regular date nights

Date nights have always been important to us. I wish I could say we always made them a priority but when we had little tiny babies, we just didn't. We would still get out here and there but not nearly enough. I would say this past year we really started realizing the importance of us getting some alone time and have made a conscious effort. Even if we don't go out, we make sure to have a regular date night at home. Usually we put the kids to bed semi-early on a Friday or Saturday and we'll cook dinner or order out and enjoy our night together. 

Have each other's back

I learned a long time ago that it's not the best idea to go around trash talking your husband. Sure, there are times we fight or get annoyed with each other and I may share that with people, or I may not, but for the most part, I try not to. 

Be a team

Me and Rick are a team and I love that. We are in this wild life together and I know either of us wouldn't have it any other way. We try our best to keep a united front, especially when it comes to the kids and I find that when we do that, we are stronger. 

Don't sweat the small stuff

Another thing I learned a while back is to not sweat the small stuff. This means that if I asked Rick to empty the dishwasher and it's been a couple hours, instead of getting annoyed because he didn't do it right when I wanted him to, I just let it be. Or when he leaves his clothes on the floor Oh and I'm not perfect either, I know he just lets plenty of things roll off his back when it comes to my quirks and imperfections. 

Intimacy & Affection

Ok, I'm not about to dish out our personal private life but all I'm going to say is that intimacy is a huge part of keeping a marriage strong. Affection too. We're not that couple that's all over each other but we do make sure to show one another affection on a daily basis. A kiss here and a hug there can go a long way with feeling more connected. You should always want and desire your partner and I think with that comes a stronger relationship. 

Please and Thank yous

We really try to treat each other with respect at all times, sure there are times when that doesn't happen (cue me flipping out for some random reason LOL) but I can tell you that when we are respectful of each other and ask nicely for the other to do things and show our appreciation, it really means a lot and makes us feel that much stronger as a couple.

Well that was fun! And writing this all out is a great reminder for me to keep up on all these things!

Don't forget to link up tomorrow with us for new monthly Girl Chat series!! This month we're talking all about your Valentine's Day plans

*linking up with Jessi's Design


  1. Precious post by a precious lady and I guarantee you're Mr. is lucky to have you! We do all of these things and a man to not sweat the small stuff. So many people make a big deal about the little things but we got a let it go. Have a wonderful day beautiful!

  2. I'm loving the have each other's back one!! All solid advice!

  3. I love that photo of you two.

    Have each others backs, heck to the yes. In a world where spouse bashing is the norm, not joining in or speaking life not only builds up your marriage, it sets and example too.

  4. these are so true and love all the pictures. my husband and i always kiss one another hello and goodbye when we see eachother :) Hope you'll stop by mine as well and let me know what you think!

  5. Amen to all of this! I'm loving this topic today - thanks so much for sharing and linking up! xo

  6. This is SPOT ON! I think that not sweating the small stuff can help avoid countless petty arguments and make the overall relationship so much more peaceful.

  7. This is so great!! Being a team and kissing hello and goodbye is a must for us too!

  8. Yes to all of these!!! I really like the idea of not complaining to others. I know my sister in law told me that once and it is something I have remembered. Although sometimes you just need to vent, make it a rare occurrence rather than an everyday thing can totally change things around!

  9. This is a great post and I agree with all of it! And such a sweet picture, too!

  10. Love the regular date nights idea--I think that's super key, especially, it seems, after having kids :)

  11. My husband and I have different love languages and we've learned that we need to meet in the middle on both. For example, I need to be included and told thank you and shown that I'm appreciated. He needs physical touch, where as I don't.

  12. This is so on point. Even with the daily kisses and hugs. I feel so bad since I have been sick that I can't give daily kisses and that is so important. I need to be better about the small stuff because I get frustrated when Rory doesn't do something that I asked or prep the girls stuff the night before when I am out with my girlfriends. NOt being specific or anything. Ha.